How To Have A Meaningful Wedding Ceremony 

When You’re Spiritual But Not Religious

Many spiritual but not religious couples want a wedding ceremony that reflects their faith. 

But how do you do that when there’s no religious blueprint to follow?

It’s one of the fastest growing groups today– people who declare they’re “Spiritual But Not Religious.” But what does it mean? And how does it change traditional ceremonies like marriage?

How do you put something so mysterious, deep and sacred into words when you’re walking your own spiritual path?

“I’m Spiritual But Not Religious”

As it turns out, it’s complicated. For some people who fall in this category, they believe that spiritual “stuff” exists. They have faith or they’ve personally experienced that there’s more than the physical universe. 

For others, it means they’ve rejected, to some extent at least, the explanations offered by familiar religions like Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Hinduism, Chinese traditional religion, Buddhism, etc. Turned off by hypocritical behavior, politics or intolerant beliefs, they don’t relate to these organizations. It just doesn’t fit. And feeling like they don’t belong anywhere, it triggers pain and confusion.

However, sometimes it’s as simple as the rejection of ritual– attending regular services, or of observing certain practices– than it is a rejection of a thought-structure. Some people keep pieces of their childhood faith and create a unique, personal relationship with their understanding of God.

Whatever the reason, this growing group of people transcends stereotypical religion. In an age where science has replaced God for many, it still doesn’t explain their feeling that there’s something more. Something bigger. Deeper. Awe-inspiring. And in their own way, they cultivate an authentic spiritual connection with lasting peace.

Whether it’s a walk in nature, meditation, prayer, yoga,  or 12-step recovery, spiritual but not religious people are finding their own path to the Divine– and thriving.

However, when it comes to sacred ceremonies like marriage, their spiritual beliefs can  become difficult to articulate.

How To Create A Meaningful Spiritual 

But Not Religious Wedding Ceremony

Unlike traditional faiths, spiritual but not religious couples have no blueprint to follow. Their wedding ceremony is a blank-slate. As long as the ceremony complies with the laws of the state, couples can do what they like!

But, creating your own, personal ritual can be stressful. For a wedding ceremony that authentically reflects your faith, dreams, wishes and vision for the future, it’s important to explore your core values and truth.

Here’s how:

1. Alignment

For a deeply personal wedding ceremony, it’s crucial to find alignment within every element. With your partner, explore your sense of truth when considering a passage, song or scripture. Does it feel “just right”? Does something feel off? You’ll know when you’ve found the right words, music, traditions or symbols– your spirit will say, “YES!!!”

2. Explore your core values and beliefs

Sit down with your partner and grab a big sheet of paper. At first, this blank page will feel intimidating. Give yourselves permission to play. Which words, images, feelings or sensations arise when you tell your love story (or even when you imagine your whole, long, beautiful marriage)? Which values and beliefs pop up? Are there cultural rites you’ve always resonated with?

Doing this together will create an intimate ceremony that rings true for you– and your treasured guests.

3. Open your sacred ceremony to your beloved community

Your family and friends have played a significant role in the love you share. From shaping your values and beliefs to teaching lessons, you’ve been touched by their love. For many couples, this sacred ceremony isn’t just for them– it’s a celebration that connects everyone involved. 

In what ways can you honor these people? Do you want them holding hands in a circle around you? Do you want them to hold and bless your rings? Would you like them to say a few words? Are there ancestors you’d like to honor, or pets you’d like to include? Allow your heart to explore any possibility.

3. Open your sacred ceremony to your beloved community


Your family and friends have played a significant role in the love you share. From shaping your values and beliefs to teaching lessons, you’ve been touched by their love. For many couples, this sacred ceremony isn’t just for them– it’s a celebration that connects everyone involved. 

In what ways can you honor these people? Do you want them holding hands in a circle around you? Do you want them to hold and bless your rings? Would you like them to say a few words? Are there ancestors you’d like to honor, or pets you’d like to include? Allow your heart to explore any possibility.

4. Add Spiritual Touches That Speak To You

Some couples worry about declaring their spiritual beliefs in their wedding ceremony– especially with religious parents. It can be tricky. However, this is your day. 

Whether you want to include poetry, song, meditation or certain scriptures to your wedding, anything goes. You can add your favorite prayer from your childhood faith. You don’t have to use the word, “God.” There are many words and phrases for God.  And it can be done in a way that offends no one.

5. Ask For Help

It can be tough to create an original, authentic wedding ceremony that truly reflects you individually and as a couple. Sometimes, it’s best to get a little help.

Working with an Interfaith Wedding Officiant, you’ll have a friend in your corner– someone who understands the complexities of being spiritual but not religious. Interfaith Ministers are experts in blending the secular with the sacred. Honoring the wisdom and beauty of all spiritual paths and world religions, Interfaith Ministers create profound moments that accurately express your faith, love and connection.

Create Your Spiritual But Not Religious

Wedding Ceremony

Are you craving a handmade, custom wedding ceremony that truly reflects you as a couple? Do you want a ceremony that’s deeply personal. Original? Meaningful? 

As your Interfaith Wedding Officiant, I’ll work closely with you to create the wedding ceremony of your dreams. I’ll dive deep to gain a complete understanding of you and your love, and we’ll design a sacred wedding ceremony from scratch– something deeply personal and uniquely yours. 

No matter the road you traveled to find love, you’ll experience a sacred union that truly expresses who you are. This is your living love story.

TRANSFORM YOUR WEDDING CEREMONY INTO A LIVING LOVE STORY

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